Leadership is about emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence that is useful becomes this way by experiencing failures. There is nothing more emotionally striking to a sincere leader than failure. There is nothing more striking than feeling out of place based on personal or external standards; there is nothing that will propel us toward progress as fast, either. Because, of the nature of the emotional sting it can serve as a catalyst for personal and professional transformation, if we allow it to.
Theodore Roosevelt:
Theodore Roosevelt:
"It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again, who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause, who at best knows achievement and who at the worst if he fails at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat."
I hope that through failures there is discontentment that arises in your soul that forces you to become a better leads. It is here that you can forge deeper character, dig deeper within yourself to give intentionally and purposefully, and with great conviction.
If you are not in a place where you are failing or feeling out of place any longer, pick up a side business or start a new endeavor, network with professionals who are better skilled than you or more knowledgeable in a given subject. Go back to school or do something to rid yourself of your level of conformability - which will increase your chances of failure, volunteer to lead a church group. Do some soul searching and become comfortable with being uncomfortable. Try your hand at doing something great, that you know you're purposed to do. Most important here, is to stir up activity failing denotes activity. You'll thank me for it later, through these experiences you very well might pick up three life times in one.